Including personalised acts or symbols in your ceremony

Personalised acts or symbols that you can incorporate into your ceremony

All of my wedding and civil partnership ceremonies are individual and custom made to suit the happy couple, but I am often asked for ideas on including personalised acts or symbols in your ceremony.

Including personalised acts or symbols in your ceremony can be a great way to include family and friends, really making them part of your special day.

Here you will find an example of some of the personalised acts or symbols that can be incorporated into your ceremony.


The use of sand is particularly popular with couples who want to include children in their ceremony.

Using different coloured sand, the couple and the children take turns pouring their pot of coloured sand into one clear vessel.  The coming together and mixing of the colours, symbolizes the joining of the families.

Ring Blessing

A great way to include your guests in the ceremony.  The wedding rings are passed around your guests, with a request that they bless them with loving thoughts and good wishes.

Oathing Stone

Following an old Celtic tradition, the happy couple have their hands held together on a stone as they say their vows.

If you want to include your guests in this, you can provide them with stones or pebbles and ask them to either ‘bless’ the stone or even write a message on them and then leave them for you.


Commonly used as a sign of appreciation, you can incorporate mothers, grandmothers or other special people into your ceremony by presenting them with roses as a way of showing thanks for their support.

Breaking the glass

Traditionally used at Jewish weddings but can be adapted for any ceremony, champagne glasses are placed in a soft bag and then smashed to signify the end of the ceremony and the start of the celebrations.

Unity Candle

Perhaps the most commonly used symbol, the couple each light an individual candle at the start of the ceremony.  Then as the ceremony comes to an end, they each take a flame from their individual candle and jointly light the centre candle to symbolize their joining together.


A lovely way to incorporate the original meaning of tying the knot.

The happy couple will have their hands tied together with ribbons to symbolize the brining together of the two hearts in a marriage of strength and unity.

Ribbons can be in your choice of colour, so are a great way to bring your colour scheme directly into the ceremony.

The tying of the knot can also be conducted by whoever you choose, perhaps there is someone special that you would like to include in your ceremony such as a parent, child or special friend.

Jumping the broom

Jumping the broom involves the happy couple jumping over a broom.  The broom symbolizes the cleaning away negativity and worries and creates a threshold for the couple to cross over into their new life together.

Often jumping the broom is a family tradition and after the jump the couple tie a piece of coloured ribbon to it, making their own symbol of family history.

Guard of honor

Guests create an arch for the happy couple to walk though after the ceremony.  Traditionally used in military ceremonies but can be made up from any items which are relevant to you such as pitchforks or swords.

These are just an example of some of the personalised acts or symbols that can be incorporated into your ceremony.  However, if you have your own ideas please contact me for a free no obligation consultation and to discuss your requirements.

I’m Claire, an independent celebrant creating beautiful bespoke wedding and civil partnership ceremonies across the Forest of Dean and Wye Valley.

If you are interested in finding out more about how I can help you create you perfect ceremony, please get in touch.


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